Between today’s hectic schedules and the increasing availability of dating websites touting compatibility screenings, online dating is losing some of its stigma and becoming a common method for searching for a mate. While it’s great that online daters can come out of the closet with their proactive quests for mates, it also means that the competition is growing as more people sign up. In order to stand out and get the responses you want, creating a unique and intriguing profile is an important first step.
While there is no standard formula that works for all profiles, following these tips will help get you noticed:
v DO post several recent photos. While photos from ten years ago may get you more notice, you don’t want your date’s first impression to be one of disappointment when the photo doesn’t match the person in front of her. Use photos that were taken within the last year and show you in a wide variety of activities and from different angles.
v DON’T write an overly negative profile. Think instead of positive statements. Turn “no crazy chicks” into “seeking stability” and “not looking for one night stands” into “seeking commitment-minded”.
v DO know what really matters to you. If you have any absolutes, list them. Maybe it’s important to you to date someone of your same faith or ethnicity, or that your potential mate love animals. Say so.
v DON’T state the obvious. Does anyone not love fun? Is anyone looking for a drama-filled relationship?
v DO check out the competition. Almost every guy describes himself as “laid back”. What different qualities do you bring to the table?
v DON’T just say it, show it. Rather than saying you’re funny, write something humorous. Don’t just write about your love of travel, describe a favorite adventure.
v DO undersell, overdeliver. Adding inches to your height or describing yourself as an athlete because you played football in high school only sets yourself up to disappoint your date. Honestly and accurately describe some of your attributes, and leave some fun details to be shared on your date.
Being attractive may find you a date; creating a well-written, accurate profile will help you find a mate. If you want a one-night stand, a few hot pix and a sentence will do. For something more serious, invest some time in crafting a real description of who you are and the qualities you seek.
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